Kindness: Luke 6:27-36.
Definition: an expression of love and mercy rooted in deep inner security that seeks the good of others, especially those who mistreats us.
Kindess is an expression of love: love’s conduct.
Kindness is the way Love behaves.
Imagine kindness on a spectrum of easy, medium, hard, and impossible.
Easy: easy to serve those who serve you. Give and take relationship
Medium: serving people who can’t serve us back. ie. random acts of kindness. Meeting with the homeless or seeing someone on the side of the road who needs assistance.
Hard: serving, loving, and showing compassion for those who could help you, but they decide not to. ie. your friend has to move tomorrow and you are a friend who has nothing better to do so you help out. A year down the road, you are the one who needs to move, and that friend chooses not to.
Impossible: serving people who mistreat you. This is the biblical kindness. It is not supposed to come naturally.
Qualifier: is God calling us to be doormats or pushovers? A: No. We are image-bearers of God who are called to be righteous.
Our first response to mistreatment has to be of love. Sometimes that means speaking up, speaking the truth, taking it-letting that person say what they have to, letting that person have their space, etc.
Love seeks the good of others. God is not telling us to be passive but to be proactive.
Don’t let them take your tunic, give your tunic.
Kindess is rooted in a deep inner security. Pushover/doormats are rooted in insecurity, fear, or pride.
Opposite: envy. Envy desires to deprive someone of what they have because the lack of what they don’t have. Envy is an expression of resentment that seeks to destroy the good it does not have.
Envy v. Jealousy:
- Envy is licking the lollipop
- Jealousy is wanting the lollipop and desiring to have what someone else has.
In the story of Cain and Abel, Cain does not commit the sin of murder, but the sin of envy.
Envy builds on the sense of emptiness, encouraging us to take to fill it up. When we feel a lack, robbed, cheated on, we lash out sinfully.
Counterfeit: image of the calculator. Calculated good deeds. “What is the bare minimum I can do to get what I want?” It has a manipulative center. Many times, we don’t realize we are keeping records of our giving and making mental notes of what to take.